Living in a society in which custom establishes that the traditional family is made up of a father, mother and children means that there are some walls to break down, questions to answer, and doubts to resolve when making the decision to form a single-parent family. However, there are studies that reveal that there is no problem in this and that it even has Benefits. And especially, speaking with the women who have made this decision, there is one, the most important, and that is that they all believe that they have made the best decision of their life.
Greater involvement, better results
Studies by different authors have indicated that single parenthood is linked to psychological problems, violence, crime, and unwanted premature pregnancies. etc. However, these studies (by Tims, Angel and Angel, McLanahan and Sandefur) did not take into account the different nature of single-parent families and judged single-parent families by death, divorce, and choice as equals.
That is to say, they did not take into account the different circumstances in which each of the families found themselves, the moment or how to access motherhood alone, if after a meditated or supervening decision, it is not a question of studies that They can be extrapolated to all models of single-parent families, since the environment and the characteristics of the environment in which the child grows up will determine, to a large extent, their personality and later development.
In contrast to the above, several studies (such as those conducted by Ekblad or Serrano) have shown that Being a single mother is not what determines the characteristics of the children, Rather, it is determined by other factors, such as the misuse of discipline, the poor relationship between parents or their prolonged absence, among others.
Against this, according to Nord and Brimhall, we find the reality, which shows that the children of single mothers by choice have advantages, such as better academic or behavioral results. This is due to the increased collaboration in the children’s learning process.
Stop relationship problems
As we have said before and in accordance with the statements of “A Critical Reflection on Single Parenthood: The Case of Single Mothers By Choice“, made by Pablo Jociles, María Isabel Rivas, Ana María Moncó, Beatriz Villamil and Fernando Díaz; Relationship problems are one of the most important causes that can cause children to suffer from different problems.
The most important consequences that derive from these conflicts are aggressiveness in character or dropping out of studies.
Therefore, not having a partner is another advantage of being a single mother by choice. In addition, as this same study points out, in the case of having it after having had the baby, single mothers by choice tend to separate family life from that of a couple, which prevents these types of problems from developing.
More time
The average age at which women decide to be single mothers is between 35 and 45 years old. Consequently, they have time to develop professionally and achieve their goals.
This is reflected in their social class, which, as reflected in the aforementioned study, “A Critical Reflection on Single Parenthood: The Case of Single Mothers By Choice ”, from the University of Huelva, it is usually middle or upper-middle class.
Education according to your criteria
On November 7, IVI presented The Best Decision, a guide for single-parent families, which aims to become a tool of help and consultation for all women who decide to face motherhood independently. As stated in this guide, another aspect that determines this model of motherhood is that single-parent families can individually choose the education they want to give their child. It is not necessary to agree with a couple to decide what values to instill in them and whatever the path started, it will be coherent because only one parent will make the decisions. Being a single mother makes her education your decision.
If you are interested in knowing more aspects that condition solo parenting, you can download the guide for free at this link.
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