Being a mom marks a turning point in life. It is a choice of no return. It is precisely this condition of irreversibility that makes it a very important decision that gives some vertigo. In a situation like this, the questions crowd in the head: will I be a good mother? Am I ready? … and a long list of doubts. When you want to be a mom and a mom, the doubts grow even more. But in the same way, later, the satisfactions also arrive increased.
100% love, 100% happiness
Mommy and Mommy’s children have an adequate and normal development. Dr. Nanette Gartrell from the Harvard University Department of Medicine conducted a 25-year study to learn about the psychological development of Mommy and Mommy’s children. The results revealed that the social, psychological, intellectual, personal and emotional development were perfectly healthy and normal. According to data from a study developed by the University of Copenhagen, only 2% of the children of lesbian mothers need to go to therapy.
On the other hand, they show a higher degree of empathy and less aggressiveness. All this is related to the type of education received (usually based on acceptance and tolerance) and the personality of the mothers (often, they are confident women, since they have had to accept themselves in a society in which that were “out of the box”).
Big decisions for incredible dreams
Being a mom and mom is a very thoughtful decision. As the study points out “The national lesbian family study”, Homosexual couples tend to consider this step in a very profound way. This makes them, on the one hand, more convinced of their decision and; on the other, that they are in a stable situation (economically and psychologically) at the moment of taking the big step. All this happens because, being a consciously valued decision, the right moment is waited for. For this reason, egg vitrification is a very widespread option among couples of women, because this practice allows keeping the eggs in perfect condition for the moment of taking the plunge, thus preserving fertility.
Furthermore, according to Inés Aristegui, in her study “Emotional Functioning and Psychological Adaptation of Children of Same-Sex Couples”, The average age for being a mother and a mother is slightly higher than that of heterosexual couples, which is why they are more mature mothers with clearer ideas.
More tolerance, less prejudice
Mommy and Mommy’s children tend to be much more tolerant. Respect and diversity form the foundation of your education. They are much more open and free. In addition, the only repercussion of the parents’ sexual orientation on that of the children is that, when there is a mother and a mother, the children are more clear about theirs.
All this is corroborated by the study on the homoparental family developed by the Official College of Psychologists of Madrid and the University of Seville, in which, once again, it is confirmed that there are no differences between the children of heteroparental families and those of homoparental ones. Although it is true that the children of homoparental families are more egalitarian in gender roles and are sexually freer, that is, they are much more tolerant of their own sexual orientation and that of others.
Without tags
Often, in heterosexual couples, society attributes some roles to the man and others to the woman. This “labeling” does not exist when there are two moms. The tasks are distributed equally and, consequently, the children have much more tolerant and shared ideas and principles.
Whereas, traditionally, in heterosexual couples, the care of the children and the home falls on the woman to a greater extent; when there is mommy and mommy, these activities are divided equally. Children learn that homework is not linked to sex.
All family models are equally suitable and acceptable. Being a mom and a mom or a dad and a mom does not determine the quality of education or the happiness of the family. It is the parents’ own personality that determines it. Love and family do not understand the sexes.
